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Mike, a prominent doctor,
started drinking socially in high school and college. He finished medical
school and joined a family practice in his early thirties. He and his
wife, Maggie, enjoyed their lives—Mike made enough money to support his
family, so his wife stayed at home with their 3 children.
Lately, Mike had been coming home late from work.
He told Maggie the stress from being a doctor was causing him not to sleep
well, so if he stopped at the local bar before coming home, he might be
able to wind down, relax and “drink a few” with the guys. After all,
wouldn’t she rather he drink away from the kids rather than in front of
them?
Maggie agreed to this until his returns home
became later and later. One night, she got the dreaded phone call, not
from Mike but from a police officer. Mike had been pulled over on the way
home and was being charged with a DUI. The officer wanted Maggie to pick
Mike up at the station.
After
Maggie brought Mike home, she asked him to go to counseling. She realized
her unhappiness in the marriage was greater than she thought. He
reluctantly agreed to go. During his first visit, the counselor did a
thorough assessment to determine if Mike was in any danger of going into
withdrawal due to his excessive drinking. The counselor determined it was
safe for Mike to quit on his own, but recommended he see his primary care
doctor soon to have a full medical work-up. She also recommended he go to
Alcoholics Anonymous and that Maggie attend Alanon meetings for additional
support. Then, the counselor and Mike set out to work on the issues and
feelings he was using alcohol to cover up. This was a challenging
process, but Mike soon realized that facing life on life’s terms was
better than living life intoxicated and oblivious of feelings,
relationships and intimacy.
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